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Gender Socialism

What is it called when one takes money from one group against their will, in order to give that money to another group who didn’t work for it? Socialism right?

“a political and economic theory of social organization that advocates that the means of production, distribution, and exchange should be owned or regulated by the community as a whole.”

We can all agree I think that what is in your pocket belongs to you. We can also all agree that the common good is a valid theory. We all use roads, schools, etc. These are things that our money is taken for that ultimately benefit everyone, not just a special group of people.

I am going to apply that same logic to gender in regards to transgender -rights- and gender fluidity as a whole.

The vast majority don’t associate with either being transgender or gender fluid. In all honesty until it is brought up in some controversial way or other, normally sexed people probably don’t consider it at all. I know that I never did.

In recent years there has been a strong push for “rights” for transgender people. These rights they are seeking unfortunately come at the expense of others and this is wrong.

In Chicago: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/breaking/ct-transgender-lawsuit-palatine-met-20160815-story.html

A boy who believes he is a girl, who is sexually attracted to girls is demanding the right to shower openly with natural born teenage girls. The argument from the left is that there is no difference from a lesbian showering with other women and a man who believes he is a woman doing the same thing. Think about that for just a minute…

Women have been fighting for equal protection under the law for a long time. Women have been fighting to keep their bodies their own business. Women have been fighting to avoid being seen as sexual objects. Women have been fighting for respect and they are right for having done so.

Women deserve their privacy. Now you have a male who has a birth defect in the brain that believes he is a woman. That belief is not shared by normal women. They know he is not what he thinks he is and for physical evidence you can point to the penis that will be on display in the shower. A man is demanding access to a woman’s area because he feels entitled to it due to his personal beliefs… not reality… just his personal belief based on a faulty self body image caused by a birth defect in the brain.

Women are being treated badly and insulted for not wanting a man in their shower. Parent’s are called bigots for not wanting a man in the shower with their daughter.

I don’t care where you go to the bathroom, you have the privacy of stalls. However communal showers still exist in many high schools. Locker rooms exist to change clothing so there is always brief nudity.

A man who thinks he is a woman may feel like a woman internally but the physical reality for those around him is very different. In the same way that socialism wants to take from one to give to another, in this case social justice people seem to want to take the comfort and dignity of the women and bestow it on the man with a birth defect without regard to the comfort and dignity of the real women.

IF the women were all universally ok with having a biological male in the shower, would they be of an age to consent to that if the male wasn’t gender confused? The age of consent for sexual things is 16 to 18 depending on your state. Nudity is by default seen as sexual in mixed company. When a 16 year old girl sends a nude photo to her boyfriend that is considered child pornography. If an 19 year old undresses in front of a 16 year old girl that can be considered sexual assault. A minor doesn’t have the right to choose for themselves yet… and that is because the brain isn’t even close to being fully developed at those ages.

In this age of “gender socialism” it has become socially acceptable to take the rights, comfort and safety of one group and violate it in favor of whatever special minority group has come along and demanded it to be done.

If socialism never works for the financial system’s of a country, if the US is opposed to systemized socialism as a form of government then how can we be ok with a form of gender socialism.

A few years ago, we would have been getting psychiatric help for people that claimed to be gender fluid, gender confused, etc. Now, we are being forced to celebrate a medical condition? They aren’t special, wonderful, etc because of a medical condition. Its not a magical situation that anyone should be envious of. We should feel empathy and be supportive, I totally agree on that. After all they can’t control being born with a birth defect. However there is a line being crossed from supportive empathy to deliberate insanity when we all choose to agree with the delusional self image brought on by a birth defect.

I personally can’t lie. Well, I can but I am horrible at it. I will never do it on purpose no matter who’s feelings it might protect. If a lie is needed to protect your self image, what does that tell you about your self image?

If someone who hears voices tell’s you that his toaster talks to him, you don’t ask if you can listen in. I don’t remember who said this but it was funny and accurate.

The argument that is made is that the physical safety of the trans person is at risk when we as a whole do not feed into the delusion. If we don’t reinforce the false self image and pretend that the man really is a woman, then his risk of suicide jumps up. I have news for many of you… someone else choosing to commit suicide is never anyone’s fault but their own. Guilt tactics do not work on me. If someone had properly helped the poor confused individual maybe suicide wouldn’t have seemed the best option. Since when is lying seen as proper and beneficial help for anything?

Dishonesty enmasse does not make a delusion the reality. A person with this disorder doesn’t deserve to be hated for it or mistreated because of it but by the same token no one else deserves to be made to feel unsafe, uncomfortable or unwanted because they do not want this person invading their space.

If you think male and female is a gender construct, you are an idiot. I will give you the point that gender roles have been too long stereotyped at the expense of women but what you do is not who you are. Just because I am a stay at home Dad does not make me a Feminine male. It makes me a Man who raises his kids because his wife is better in the work place. It doesn’t make her a masculine woman because she likes to wear jeans, tee shirts and holds a management position.

It is seriously time for “gender socialism” to be shown for the lie it is. Instead of building everyone up, it seeks to build up a few at the expense of the many. Instead of women being entitled to the rights they have fought for, now women are being forced to cohabitate with men who have a birth defect that leads to gender confusion.

Here is another great example:

http://www.express.co.uk/comment/columnists/camilla-tominey/641761/Letting-trans-men-compete-against-women-not-level-playing-field

REAL men and women are biological and physiologically different. We have different strengths and weaknesses. How does it make any rational sense to allow men who associate with being women while still benefitting from the increased muscle mass, bone density and general increased athleticism of being male compete against women who train every single day to be their best?

This is the same thing as taking someone who has a lifetime of steroid use to bolster their performance and physique and then allowing them to compete once they essentially change drugs.

Regardless of how you feel inside, you will never be the woman you think you are on the inside. I feel bad for you, I empathize with you but I will not lie to you.

One argument in favor of trans using the gender they identify with as a safety issue is the threat of sexual assault against them if they use the bathroom they are biologically built for.

Ok… if you are a man who believes he is a woman and you are forced to use the men’s room and men’s shower… and you are PRE OP… do you seriously believe that normal, straight men are going to sexually assault you? You do understand the concept of being heterosexual right? If a straight man were to sexually assault or rape a man who believed he was a woman… that would be homosexual behavior… So are you scared of straight men or gay men?

Maybe you define sexual assault differently than a vast majority?

Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities as forced sexual intercourse, forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.

Are you perhaps living with another delusion on top of your existing gender confusion? Do you think that because you see yourself as a woman that a straight man will see you as a woman as well and see a potential victim to prey on? I have news for you… unless you are post op… you are a man in a mans body to us normal, straight guys. Sexually assaulting you doesn’t even cross our minds. So… you are demanding the right to make women uncomfortable… because of an irrational fear with no basis in reality that is predicated on your faulty self image which is itself based on a delusion brought on by a birth defect.

No, I am not a Christian conservative. No, I don’t hate anyone. I do however believe that everyone deserves to be comfortable but not at the expense of others. If someone somewhere wants to open up a third option bathroom and shower and give everyone a choice on which bathroom to use and which shower to use I would love to see a study done on which bathroom is used the most often by which sex or which gender confused.

Instead of demanding something you have no right to, the usurpation of the rights of biological women in favor of your false belief of your sex based on a birth defect that is beyond your control why not do the study I propose.

Lets see how many biological women jump at the chance to shower with the males, after all gender has nothing to do with sexuality and a liberated woman should have nothing to fear right?

Dress as a woman in public, fine. Be referred to as a woman, fine… so long as I have never known you as a man I won’t be lying if the name you give me is the name I refer to you by. Use whatever bathroom floats your boat, considering how horrible the men’s room normally looks in public places I don’t blame you for wanting to use the womens room.

When nudity is involved, it puts the lie to your faulty self image and puts others in a position of discomfort and unease. It makes biological women feel less safe and less respected when a biological man can invade her space when she is in a vulnerable position.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Self Identify as Human

After reading an article about gender fluidity becoming a part of basic health classes in elementary schools, I decided enough was enough and that it was time for me to say something. 

I hope that I have managed to write this article in a friendly, non judgmental and conversational way but I know that no matter how well written that some will respond negatively. To those people I say, I respect your opinion but do not agree with it.

I am an unapologetic agnostic. I love the morality of the Bible, but the mysticism is a bit harder for me to believe in. That being said, I am also someone who is willing to see and admit when there is a problem. There has been a big problem for society since we have taken the Bible away from main stream focus.

While I don’t personally hold to any particular belief of a heaven and hell, sadly many people need that greater power in order to make healthy decisions for them… and to force them out of the bubble of self interest.

We have replaced the word with the web. I am sure any of those reading this can see the irony. We as a society have gotten ourselves trapped in a web of our own creation. 

Once, people who felt different and alienated might seek help from professionals or their community in order to be better able to be part of their community; now we have those people building digital communities of their own online for the sole purpose of finding comfort and to reinforce their faulty self image.

Sadly, there seems to be strength in imaginary numbers. It is easy to convince yourself that you aren’t the one with a problem when you have ten other people agreeing with you who suffer in the same way that you do. After all, how wrong could you be if these other people also share your delusional state?

One of the arguments against having religion as part of the governance of society is that everyone is entitled to their own belief system. You simply are not allowed to force your belief on anyone else. It is considered rude and obnoxious.

How is forcing imaginary gender identities, sexual proclivities and kinks onto others and forcing them to not only accept this as sane but as normal any different than forcing your religion on someone else.

I would argue that this new focus on gender identity is a religion unto itself. It’s a religion OF self. It is self worship and idol building in the pursuit of converting others to your belief system.

A Christian man comes up to you and during the conversation you refer to him with male pronouns. He is outraged, how dare you not use his self identified pro nouns of “Son of Christ” instead of man, boy, etc. He insists that you only use his self identified language in order to communicate with him or you are not respecting his rights as a person of faith.

That same man is now filling out a job application. Under race/nationality he chooses to self identify as “Christian American”. 

Are you curious as to how many eyebrows in the hiring office would go up upon reading that self identification?  During the interview he informs the interviewer that he needs to be addressed by his self identified pronouns as a documented “Christian American.”

 If this were a speech versus an article, I would be asking for a show of hands on how many people believe this “Son of Christ” would get the job he applied for… or if the interviewer would politely say that they have more interviews scheduled and they will get back with him err… sorry… “The Son of Christ” and let them know if a position becomes available.

Would you be outraged if someone chose to “self identify” in this way? Would it bother you if he and those who believed as he did tried to force their “self identity” onto others by showcasing their “lifestyle” in every popular media and slipping it into every book and conversation?

Your personal held beliefs are just that, yours. You can self identify however you choose but you cannot and should not try to force those around you to believe in the same system that you identify with for yourself.

How you see yourself is valid and important but only to you. You have no control over how others see you and why should you ever feel as if you should?

Everyone deserves to be accepted as being human. We can all agree on that. Anything beyond basic humanity however is completely subjective and has no place being forced onto anyone else in order to conform to your self- image.

11/25/2016 I have a lack of tolerance, for intolerance. How about you?

In advance,  I am sorry for the overly serious post today, I know that it’s not popular when I discuss social issues on my timeline or blog. It isn’t popular with any social activist group because my views fall in the middle across the board. There is room for everyone, so long as we all make room for everyone. There is room for all idea, good and bad so long as we remember that all ideas and beliefs need to be measured against our own moral code, the good of those around us and the possible harm that those beliefs will do to others.
I don’t understand why the concept of equality under the law has always been such a problem for our society. Throughout history different groups in our country have had to fight to be treated with basic human dignity. When one group finally achieves a measure of equality, the venom of the masses seems to turn upon the next group in the list.
 
Who studies history? Who remembers when the Irish were the Muslims, unwelcome to be here… not wanted as employees and seen as a burden? Who remembers when women were second class citizens in our own country and had to fight for the right to vote? We are all familiar with slavery I am sure. How about interracial couples? Who remembers the hate directed at them?
 
Now for just a moment, consider that these attitudes are alive and well in our nation. These backwards ways of thinking thrive in small, tight nit communities with little outside influence.
 
It has taken federal pressure, time and again to get the majority to treat the minority with basic human dignity and respect. In order to get federal attention those minorities have historically made as much noise in as many ways as possible to get their voices heard.
 
The premise of being a conservative is that you live by a philosophy that we learn from our past, keep what works and do our best not to repeat the mistakes. Conservative values aren’t religious based, they are simple logical values of doing your best to avoid things that didn’t work the first time.
 
I have spent the past hour or so, debating with someone about the merits of a federal bureau of education versus states being in control at a local level to decide what is taught to students. The other person used arguments against federal oversight because it stopped people from treating others as second class citizens. They were upset that federal guidelines promoted tolerance and acceptance of people that are different than we are.
 
The attitude that we as a nation can afford to be intolerant and ignorant is flawed. Only in small, rural areas where there is not much influence by the nation or world at large can that ideology flourish. The world is not as big as it use to be. Modern technology makes it possible for the exchange of ideas (good and bad sadly) to move at the speed of light across oceans and mountains.
 
Those promoting a religious based state run public education system only see their small, insulated communities. They aren’t looking at the demographics state wide. The reality is that if we use religious teachings as the backbone of education and social norms there is a very good chance that you will end up being forced to live according to a faith that is not your own.
 
I had to delete the original thread because it just wasn’t worth the frustration of essentially arguing with myself.
 
Tolerance has to be applied equally. You can disagree passionately without having to force others to live as you choose to live or believe. You can offer your world view as an option but you have to be open in turn for others to offer theirs in return.
 
In a perfect world, all states in our nation would do what is right for everyone by promoting basic human rights, equality and tolerance for those who are different. We all know this is not the world we live in, YET.
 
I live my life as someone who was born different. I am autistic, yes. I am also the son of a lesbian. I am an orphan. I have been a son to many families and been involved with many different faiths. Because of who I am, I was never able to stay anywhere long enough to develop a myopic world view.  I think that makes me just as different as being born autistic ever has.
 
Do I agree with every behavior, every act of defiance or every choice made by any particular group at any given time? No. I personally struggle with a few social issues and sometimes with treating others with basic human dignity and respect. I work on myself daily to improve but I am no saint.
 
The only solution to ignorance is education for our children. The only solution for intolerance is to teach children to be more accepting than we were taught to be. We are already adults, our minds are slow to change and our opinions are set… even mine.
 
The world, the nation and even the states do not belong to the adults. We are just custodians for the children we raise now. What type of world do you want to leave behind as your legacy?

11/04/2016 An Autistic view of Racism

I have always been a bit different. In some ways I was luckier than most in my last adoptive family. You see, when my parents needed a respite from me as a special needs child they had extended family that were willing to take me in. Having multiple families through multiple class and social types has been a benefit for me as an adult. I guess “it takes a village” is a lot more accurate than people realize.

I remember long summers at my sister Candy’s house. Her husband at the time was a black man. My nieces and nephews are all bi-racial. She lived on the poorer side of town which some might consider the ghetto.

The mental image people have of inner city or ghetto life is not what I experienced as a child staying with her. What I saw was a community that loved each other and took care of its own. It was a city within a city. While the area was predominantly black families, no one ever gave me a second look as a white child running through the streets with my friends and family members.

I was accepted as part of the community, skin color had no effect. Maybe it was because I was too young to be jaded yet and maybe it was because the community saw that I was blind to racial differences due to my age. Whatever the case, those were some of the happiest times of my life.

When I look around at the struggles every community seems to have, I don’t see racism. I see ignorance. It isn’t even an intentional ignorance for the most part but an ignorance born from lack of exposure.

When you live with a black family for any length of time, the black drops off and you start to recognize them as just FAMILY. I have some experience living in other ethnically diverse households but none that are so clear to me as living with my sisters family. I find myself wondering if that might be the best solution to racism in this country.

Maybe what we need is for all our children to be socially exposed to one another early and often: Regardless of social class, financial status, education level or even religious leanings. Children don’t have a preference until we teach them to have one. I don’t know that we can change adult minds in the same way because we all become set in our ways as we age.

As someone who is autistic, none of the racial groupings make any difference to me. I have the same trouble relating to a White man, Black man, Native American man or Hispanic man. You are all a mystery to me most of the time! I am perfectly happy to befriend any of you so long as I don’t annoy you too much without meaning to.

Every single culture in our society has value and something worth making a part of all the rest of us. Sure, there are downsides too because of years of intentional and unintentional divisions but there is so much more that makes us the same versus what makes us different.

We have foreign exchange students to learn about other cultures. Why do we not do the same thing with our own people here in our own nation? If you really consider it, that was what my childhood was in between trips to various institutions. I got to live in a cultural exchange type system and it made me more open and accepting of everyone I meet.

One of the defining moments of my childhood was when Beverly Harvey who owned the group home I was living in took us to see a play at Actors Theater in Louisville. She had all of us dressed up, every one of my peers. Race and social class were not a barrier, she treated us all as family. She took us to the theater, got us seated and she made a point to say “Look around children, see everyone here? You are just as good as any of them. You have all the same potential and never let anyone tell you differently.”

I don’t think I can state how big an impact that made on a group of kids from mixed backgrounds. We all struggled with self worth issues because many of us were lifetime members as Wards of the State.

Little moments like this and times spent with family members of different social, economic and cultural backgrounds helped me to become someone who is open, loving and accepting of everyone based on their own character and nothing as superficial as race.

I am human; I still make ignorant comments occasionally. I will never be perfectly adjusted either. I can however say that I will always be open to everyone until they lose that trust based on their own actions and not the stereotyped expectations that others might have for them.

Racism is born from ignorance and I believe that if we let the children lead the way and we support them in having open minds and being accepting of others that we can make those artificial divides a thing of the past.

I love my family, all of my family. Whether the adoptions were terminated and whether or not they want anything to do with me. All the people in my life have contributed to make me who I am, a loving husband and a good father. What more could I ask for? What more could any of us ask for than to learn to love with the openness of a child?

The Respite program and it’s value

This is my response to the article I just read about the Respite program running out of funding and potentially ending soon. If you aren’t familiar with Respite,its a program that gives parents a moment to catch their breath and re-bond with each other while someone else takes on the responsibility for their special needs child for a day or a weekend.
I am going to write a bit more on this post. I am an autistic adult… so you know I was also a special needs child. I was adopted and fostered into multiple homes but ultimately one of the big reasons I kept getting re-homed was due to burn out.
No matter how much you love your special needs child whether biological or adopted there is a constant strain on you that is different from what parents of “normal” children have to deal with.
It is easy to be patient once in a while. It is easy to be loving and rational when you aren’t tested every moment of every day.
The respite program was just starting to take off when I was about 10 years old. I remember how excited I was to get to make a new friend and stay over at a new house just for a night or weekend. I remember it was an adventure for me!
What I didn’t realize at the time was how much my caregivers needed that chance to recharge and reconnect with one another. When every bit of emotional and mental energy goes into giving your special needs child what they need… there is so little left to give one another.
Keeping the Mom and Dad together is just as important as meeting the needs of the child because meeting those special needs is so much easier as a team.
A program that provides that, a program that gives parents the chance to relax and just breathe for what seems like only a brief moment can be the deciding factor on whether the family stays together and keeps fighting the good fight or falls apart.
This type of program has immense value. It provides a service that is hard to come by even in typical families. If your child is special needs it isn’t always easy to find a baby sitter, daycare or even a family member willing to take on the responsibility for even a day let alone a weekend.
We need Respite to survive, for the children AND their parents.

10/27/2016 An autistic view on politics

Let me start by saying, after having been asked if I would ever want to run for public office… the answer is a resounding NO. I seriously considered it at first but over the past few weeks of actually helping someone with their campaign I can honestly say that politics as a career had to be created by a neurotypical.

Where else in our society do we systematically destroy our opponents with every piece of dirt we can find or manufacture? Where else is lying referred to as “spinning” and is completely socially acceptable? We have basically devolved into a society that expects from our politicians things that would be unacceptable from our own children.

“Daddy, I didn’t do it. You see, the problem is … well let me tell you about the problem we all face really because isn’t that what is more important. We can ask ourselves who broke the toy but really the question is where was the toy manufactured.”

I am not sure how individually reasonable and intelligent people turn into rabid sports fans during election season, but it happens. Maybe I have a limited understanding of team spirit. A case in point was a response to a question I asked just yesterday.

“If you are ok with one person’s accusers from years ago being in the spotlight than why aren’t you ok with your person’s accuser also being brought to light?”

The response was enlightening and saddened me at the same time. I was told “Because we NEED them.”

Think about that for a moment. Instead of being fair and unbiased in how we portray those who aspire to power… what we are willing to accept and in some cases even bury about our contender, because at the end of the day they are what we have and we NEED their additional vote.

I don’t think I could survive or thrive in that type of environment. I have a hard enough time with the politics of the nonprofit industry, let alone with politics at a state or national level!